Style-Delights: What Makes A Woman Stylish?

February 7, 2012

What Makes A Woman Stylish?

Clothes, accessories, shoes - they make us feel pretty, but there is something else that makes a woman extraordinary! It's the way she behaves! In my book, her attitude makes her stylish. Anybody can buy the couture clothes, dazzling jewelry and the trendy accessories, but the stylish attitude separates the truly stylish from forgettable beauties! A delightfully stylish woman shows her fashionable colors not only through her wardrobe, bur also through her behavior. Wanna know her style secrets - keep reading!

  • She does not buy fake designer goods - And neither should you! Other than being fake (do you like the word?) they are produced with unethical business practices. There are so many horrible stories of children being abused to make counterfeit goods and these fake fashion merchandise makers often are associated with drug and human trafficking rings. They take jobs away from legitimate companies and their workers and promote bad business practices. If you can not afford a Gucci, go buy a Coach. If you can't afford a brand name, go to discount stores where they have good quality merchandise for low prices. Fake is not stylish!
  • She never measures a woman on her looks and NEVER calls her names - This is my personal pet peeve! Oftentimes, a successful woman is not judged by her qualification and achievements but by her looks!! If a woman is not in the industry where looks are the driving force for her success (e.g. fashion,modeling, acting) nobody has the right to put her down for her style! Critique her behavior, public policy or political views, but negatively commenting on her physical features and style is just wrong! Hilary Clinton may not have been your favorite candidate but calling her B word is repulsive! (I draw the line at poking fun at her headbands!). Michelle Obama may not be your favorite first lady but commenting on her posterior is none of your business. You don't have to agree with Michele Bachman, but making fun of her eye makeup is just mean! Ladies, we have enough males doing that, we have to behave better then them - right!! {Silvio Berlusconi (oh the nerve!) called Angela Merkel something I can not even print on my blog!! And she is one the most successful and at this economically critical time - important European leaders!} I don't see a man calling another man such disgusting things. Even in an election year when most male politicians are out there debating, challenging, even calling each other names - you hardly hear a man calling another man - dog? or see them snickering over other guy's hair/eyes/body weight??
  • She does not fear her age - She may not reveal it to public, but she is always gracious excepting each year as a badge of experience, a life well lived, the dreams fulfilled. Comedian Rita Rudner once said - The problem with our pop culture is that a 16 years old wants to dress like a 30 years old, and a 30 years old wants to dress like a16 years old! Aging (and dressing) gracefully is the most important style skill a woman can have!
  • She does not equate stay at home moms/spouses with 'not working' - Yeah right, we just laze around all day watching TV! Believe me, I have worked in a crazy, chaotic, totally unorganized newsroom for 24 hours straight and compared to my SAHM experience, that was the rejuvenating vacation! Even CNN says being a mom should pay a 6 figure salary. Don't believe me - read this ! My point - stylish women respect what each and every woman in society does - no matter what the label!
  • She shops wisely- Her wardrobe is the envy of the women's club! Not because she spends like a celebrity, but because she is wise in her shopping. She builds a wardrobe piece by piece, mixes bargain price merchandise with high end (original) goods and preserves and conserves the fashionable pieces for a timeless wardrobe!
  • She uses a tailor - Good fit is the ONLY fit. She doesn't buy something that does not fit just because it was on sale or she loved the color!!! Be it the right hemline for a skirt, right cut for a jacket, right fit for a shirt - she treats her clothes as the extension of herself - always the perfect fit for her body!!
  • She respects her body without stereotyping -  She does not follow the media standard or fad for what is sexy - she celebrates her body whether stick thin or full figured! For the longest time we were made to believe (and still are) that thin is beautiful, then the fashion world and celebrities tried to change the perspective and full figure/curvy became sexy! But these days I am seeing a dangerous trend to lash out on thin women and celebrate curvy figures but not the real everyday curvy- only an hourglass Sophia Vergara -esque body or perfectly toned -but just big boob-ed Kim Kardashian-esque figures! It is like going to other extreme in setting standards of beauty and body size. Just like the time we stereotyped thin as sexy and pressured women to throw up after meals, we are now stereotyping "curvy" image to pressure women (and even young girls) to go under the knife for bigger boobs and butt! And a stylish woman sees right through it- instead of giving the hard earned cash to the plastic surgeon she celebrates her body by rewarding it with a massage or a new DVF dress!!
Have a great week ahead you all!!

53 comments :

  1. This post is WONDERFUL! Inspiring and invigorating :)

    xo Stephanie
    honey & silk blog
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  2. Thanks Stephanie! I am glad you liked it!

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  3. I couldn't have said it better myself.... This is one of the best posts that I've read. Well done.

    ClassAKAlyChic.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks for visiting ClassAKAlyChic!

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    2. I nominated your blog for the "I Love Your Blog" award!

      See my page for details. (:

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  4. Loved reading your post and agreed with all the features you mentioned :) And hey-me your new GFC follower now :)

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    1. Thanks so much! I will surely swing by your blog!

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  5. awesome post styledelights...i voted n the 100th vote is mine hehe...

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    1. Thanks so much Pavani!! Means a lot!! *hugs*

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  6. Hi Jyoti,

    You are a gem among fashion bloggers. Not just beautiful and fashionable, but infused with morals and high values. Rare qualities that set you apart. You have my vote.

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    1. aww Laura, you surely know how to make someone's day!! Thanks a lot for your kind comments! I love your blog - treasure box of amazing stuff!

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  7. Love this post. Especially the point that women are always targeted in terms of their body and their looks, in completely unrelated professions like business or politics. No one (men or women) bothers about such trivialities in men, only their achievements are considered. Great work!

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  8. Loving all the bright bold spring colors in this ensemble! You make some super excellent, valid points...Don't dare mess with a woman whose got a tried and true tailor on her side...Agreed! Awesome post!

    xo-Julie
    Peace. Love. LOL!

    Haute Khuuture.com

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  9. I came across your blog because of Refinery29 contest and since then I am hooked. I love the way you put across your points. Past two days I made sure I got through all your old posts it was a great read. Keep it up!

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    1. Thanks Leena, comments like yours make me keep writing! Glad you liked it! See you back soon!

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  10. You have said it all and I agree with everything :)

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  11. I totally agree with the shopping wisely and tailors bit!! Your flow of thoughts into words is awesome :) I'm happy I found your blog!

    I'm having a giveaway on my blog for Indian residents but if you want you can try to win it for someone living in India :)

    xoxoxo
    Ritcha
    http://ritchastyle.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks Ritcha, will surely swing by your blog!!

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  12. Amen honey! You hit the nail on the head.
    P.s loving this multi coloured combination xo

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    1. Thanks Porcelain complexion - hope you are having a great week!

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  13. You have put your point across very nicely- what is a fashionista without a good heart anyway ?

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    1. Thanks Sanghmitra. I appreciate the compliment! And yes, beautiful heart makes a beautiful person!

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  14. This is a great post and I agree with most of what you said. I'm not necessarily aging gracefully - "oof" is a common word in my vocabulary. And my clothes don't fit perfectly - I am recently into XXL silk shirts when I normally wear an XXS. But I am having fun. I think the positive attitude is what you have nailed, though. One term I strongly dislike, which I often hear, is "mutton dressed as lamb" to describe women who dress much younger than their years according to I-don't-know-whose standard. Can you think of an equivalent term for a man? Bull dressed as veal? What is that?!!

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    1. LOL Melanie! have to think of something for men then!! BTW, I like people expressing their individuality thru their style and fashion, but there is a fine line between expression and explosion - you tread it well!:-)

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  15. Great post !! : ) Sooo rightly said !!
    Btw am following u now.. Would be glad if u visit my blog sometime & follow me back !! : )

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  16. Couldn't agree more! Great write up as always! :)

    ♡ from © tanvii.com

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  17. What a wonderful post! I definitely agree with all of these. I tend to think that the most important quality that makes a woman stylish is her confidence. In herself and what she's wearing.
    Sarah
    http://comingunstitched.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks Sarah! Hope you are having a wonderful week - Chinese take out and all;-)

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    1. Thanks Alicia, hope to see you back soon!

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  19. You should write a post about time management. You write every day, looking at you it seems you work out every day; you are a full time mom and a home maker. Plus being in US I know being home maker with no house help is tedious.
    Please do write something about how you manage.

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    1. You say the sweetest things Leena! Made my day - and thanks for the blogpost idea!

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  20. Oh my goodness, I am SO in love with your blog, your style, your outlook and especially this post! Class, sophistication and integrity seem to be harder and harder qualites to find these days and I am so thrilled to find a like-minded woman with courage and strength who believes in standing up for truth rather than conforming to the masses. You're amazing, following you now and heading over to vote on Refinery 29 right this second! Thank you for voting for me as well :) Xo

    www.socalsophisticate.com

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    1. Thanks a lot Abby! You really made my day!

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  21. This is by far the most inspiring post you have written Jyoti. I agree to every full stop. I respect you for being one of those few women with a great style and a strong opinion.

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  22. Awesome post! I agree with everything you said! :)

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  23. I'm with you on not making fun of people's style choices. You can think or say that something is not the most flattering, but making fun of it is just plain rude!

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  24. So so true ,each and everything you mentioned in your post

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